Introducing the Four Horsemen
Now, let’s talk about some more about the research in this area. Earlier, we discussed some of the important aspects of healthy conflict in couple relationships. There are also some important pitfalls to avoid. Dr. John Gottman is one of the most well-known marriage researchers, and he devoted his career to studying and understanding couple relationships. He identified four behaviors that may happen during conflict in couples’ relationships, and these are highly predictive of divorce. In fact, their effect on couple relationships is so toxic that Dr. Gottman even labeled them “The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse.” Yikes! Let’s go through each one of them so you’ll know to be on the lookout for them in your own relationship!